Emily Esfahani Smith talks about how life’s meaning is not about finding happiness. She explores how people are brainwashed by the idea that finding happiness in life leads to a prosperous and full life, however, this is not true. The constant need to be happy actually has a reverse effect and can lead to anxiety and an unfulfilled feeling. Having meaning in life is actually what people should search for. She discusses the 4 pillars that lead to resilience and a longer life: Belonging, Purpose, Transcendence, and Storytelling,
Belonging: “Being in relationship where you’re valued for who you are intrinsically and where you value others as well”
Purpose: “using your strengths to help others”
Transcendence: Rare moments when you’re lifted above… and you feel connected to a higher reality”
Storytelling: “The story you tell yourself about yourself; Creating a narrative from the events of your life brings clarity.”
I enjoyed this Ted talk because it defies what children are often taught. Society is obsessed with finding happiness, but this often leaves us feeling empty and unsure of whether we have found happiness or not. This Ted talk caused me to reflect on my life and see how many relationships I am apart of that make me feel like I belong, whether I have a purpose or am still looking for it, to look for things that make me feel connected to a power stronger than myself and caused me to think about the story I tell about my life.